Here are some tips on how to deal with toxic loved ones in different situations.
Requests to borrow money
If a loved one constantly asks to help him out with money, get him a job or let him live somewhere, this is a sign of toxicity. You can do it in several ways.
- Learn to say no and not feel guilty about it. Remember that there is nothing wrong with this.
- Ask for a favor in return. For example, you are asked to borrow money, and you ask for help with repairs or taking care of a pet.
- Set tough conditions. You must clearly define for what period you give money or settle in your loved one.
Do you feel and see how your relative is manipulating you? He can say hurtful words, blackmail you by stopping communication. What to do in this case?
You must understand that perhaps you are simply missing your loved one. After all, no one wants to be alone. And in this case, you may need a consultation with a psychologist, with whom you will say everything that was not agreed on both sides. Also, you should set aside a day when you will pay attention to your family.
You are asked too personal questions that you do not want to answer at all. They also tell you that you are not living the way you should. What should you do?
Tell your loved one that you are uncomfortable with such questions. Apologize and answer that your life is your own business. You will, of course, have to make an effort not to shout or fight. But it’s worth it. After all, you will adequately get out of the situation. First of all, you need to be sensitive to yourself and not take into account advice that offends you.
Shahida Arabi “Toxic People. How to protect yourself from narcissists, gaslighters, psychopaths and other manipulators”
A book for anyone who has to deal with toxic people. You will learn to build communication according to your own rules and not allow yourself to be manipulated.
In this guide, you will find the theoretical background and practical exercises to help you:
✅ identify toxic people and choose effective ways to interact with them;
✅ learn to recognize the first signs that they are trying to manipulate you, and immediately stop common types of psychological abuse, such as gaslighting, ignoring, projection, “love bombing” and so on;
✅ learn how to recover from trauma in a relationship and form healthy personal boundaries based on the inner self.