How to develop the ability to accurately recognize lies

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Olena Shevchuk

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26.08.22

We are constantly talking to someone. There are other people in everyone’s life. And no one is immune from deception. But you want to protect yourself from lies and recognize them in advance, so as not to be disappointed later.

How to learn to “see lies”?

It is, of course, impossible to independently learn to clearly understand whether a person is lying to you or not. But when we talk to a person, we can use small tricks that will allow us to understand him, to see hidden reactions. You can learn this by ordering a session with a psychologist who will help you understand yourself, become more attentive to details when communicating with a person.

After all, it depends on how well you can notice facial expressions, gestures and other nuances in the behavior of the interlocutor. Namely, this shows the real feelings of a person, what he really thinks.

Methods for recognizing a lie

There are several interesting techniques that allow you to understand the other. Specialized psychological trainings teach how to recognize deception and what to pay attention to. At them, participants work with each other, share experiences and work out various situations in practice.

Let's look at a few methods that will help you learn to better recognize what is false and what is true.

The conversation partner tells you a true story, but you are hesitant

Собеседник рассказывает вам правдивую историю, но вы сомневаетесь

☝ Try to learn as much information from him as possible, ask leading questions on the topic, then move on to another topic. After a while, return to this story, ask the same questions and ask to play the story again.

It seems to you that a person is lying when answering questions

Вам кажется, что человек врет, отвечая на вопросы

☝ You need to try to change the subject, and if the interlocutor is happy to support the idea, exhale with relief, rejoice, then most likely he lied to you. The one who speaks the truth will not understand what the speech is about and will make sure that he is heard.

After answering your question, look at the interlocutor with distrust

После ответа на ваш вопрос посмотрите на собеседника с недоверием

☝ If he is not being honest with you, then your gaze will make him feel awkward or insecure. If the interlocutor tells the truth, but your distrust will annoy a little and even infuriate him.

Look at the expression in the other person’s eyes

Посмотрите на выражение глаз собеседника

☝ During deception, a person may look down or they will run. The one who speaks the truth will look straight at you, without embarrassment.

You ask a question and the person answers with a question

Вы задаете вопрос, а человек отвечает также вопросом

☝ Most likely, he evades a direct answer and he has something to hide.

A nervous reaction may follow in response to an uncomfortable question.

Может последовать нервная реакция в ответ на неудобный вопрос

☝ The interlocutor may begin to turn around, cough, make sudden movements, fuss. This means that he is preparing to tell a lie.

The ability to listen

By practicing listening to the other person, noticing details, and paying attention to the gestures and facial expressions of the person, you will be able to understand where you are being told a lie. But all people are different and it happens that lowered eyes during a conversation or a violent reaction to a question can be caused by a type of temperament. Therefore, a professional psychologist will help you understand people more deeply and notice all the important nuances.