Many people try to stay spiritually close to their partner for as long as possible. Genuine intimacy is dangerous in the following ways:
- you become vulnerable;
- all your weaknesses are revealed;
- you experience pain in any conflict.
When a person has an attitude that no one can be trusted, he will try to protect himself. At the same time, in order to defend himself, he begins to control his partner too much. Thus, the resulting jealousy becomes just a way of protection.
Attempts to avoid intimacy
The reason for this is the same vulnerability. But it comes from the trauma of rejection. The partner is so afraid of being rejected that he becomes jealous in order to avoid this feeling. And here we need an individual psychologist, with whom a person can delve deeply into his feelings, understand the causes of the condition and find solutions.
Because of jealousy, a person sees his partner as imperfect, who is a danger to him. And it seems that this will be a great reason for parting. A person constantly thinks that he would rather break off relations first than be abandoned. Or he may say that his beloved is not the person who can be trusted.
It is important to understand that if your partner is jealous for no reason, it is less up to you. After all, pathological jealousy mainly comes from childhood, depends on the experience of a person. And at the heart of it all is the relationship with the parents.
When a partner understands that a person is jealous only because of his experience with his parents, it will be easier for him. He does not need to prove his devotion and loyalty. There will also be an understanding that only your partner can change what is happening. And he will need to realize his own problems by contacting a psychologist.
When we talk about pathological jealousy, it is important to understand the degree of pathology. If it is pronounced, this indicates a pathology. In some cases, it may indicate mental disorders. It can be schizophrenia, neurosis, alcohol abuse and other problems. The consequences can be severe, because a person goes to extremes.
Thus, if your partner is experiencing morbid jealousy, you need to understand the reasons and understand how to deal with it. Most often, it is a consultation with a psychologist that allows you to improve relationships, solve your childhood problems and learn to trust your partner.