We form an idea of ourselves on our own, but always under the pressure of relatives and others. Adequate self-esteem for those whose ideas about themselves almost completely coincide with how others think of them. A person understands his strengths and weaknesses, works on himself in order to develop and become better.
Inflated self-esteem means that a person considers himself the best, he thinks that he has a lot of virtues. And no one can compare to him.
But low self-esteem will be when a person sees only shortcomings in himself. He believes that he does not deserve anything good in this life, and everything around him is much better.
We form our self-image at an early age. Then we are influenced by those closest to us – parents, brothers and sisters, aunts and uncles, grandparents. Those children who were listened to, loved and not humiliated, did not violate their personal space, and if they scolded, then only for the cause, grow up as people with adequate self-esteem.
Admired children grow up with inflated self-esteem. But those children who were criticized, compared with others, forced to earn parental love by some actions, grow up with low self-esteem. It will also be low if the child has suffered psychological trauma, seen the parents’ quarrels or survived their divorce, experienced physical and emotional punishment, was devalued in the family.
As you can see, there are many reasons for low self-esteem. Therefore, it cannot be said that only some people suffer from self-doubt. In doing so, they:
- careful in their actions;
- afraid to make decisions and take responsibility;
- too demanding of themselves and other people;
- vulnerable and touchy;
- envious, with an inferiority complex;
- depend on the opinions of others.
Some people try to compensate for low self-esteem by acting on the contrary. They often change partners, attract attention with bright clothes and make-up, behave too loudly in companies.